Money is never a priority for the Venusian

How often have you come across a meme of a girl fleeting during her date because the guy said he is cashless? And what about songs created by those famous pop rock bands about how a girl wants only money and of course, luxurious lifestyle. 

I wouldn't deny the fact that we the 'Venusian' loves luxurious lifestyle, diamonds and all those fancy little things, and yes, we need money for that. We want money, but we don't live for money. I can't believe in the millennium era , there exist ideation of woman being a gold-digger. Yes, there are gold-diggers out there, but more are women that would work hard to earn a diamond ring. So guys, stop thinking so mainstream. 

Back to the yesteryears, where women would prefer getting married to a rich man, neither age nor good looks was a important criteria to be reviewed. Why? In the most simple theorization, woman never got a good education,some total illiterates , and always looked as a home maker , rather than breadwinner. 

If all she could do after marriage is to spend her time in the four walls of her home, to give pleasure to her husband in the bedroom and to make cooking as her lifetime hobby, then why not, she demand for a good, wealthy husband that would be able to keep her happy while flowing gifts? At least that worth all the pain she has to go through being a housewife ( No females out there who doesn't want to be showered with gifts and love - of course). 

Back to the present, the amount of women depending on their husband has drastically dropped and the amount of men depending on women has drastically increased. Today, we don't want a wealthy husband, but we want someone who will be able to understand us. We believe in the rich inner beauty rather than the bank balance. 

So the males out there, change your perception over us, because we are living in the 21st century, its not the 19th or 20th century. We are women standing on our own feet, we work hard for what we want and we don't dig for golds ;) . 

Why Education Is Important For A Girl .

Education is the base of a good life, and it has the capability of changing an uncivilized person into a civilized person. Since the declaration of Human Rights in 1948, everyone deserves an education, with no prominent discrimination, and with a good quality of education.  Education is definitely a weapon everyone can possess with a great hard work and determination.  As a girl, it is very important to have a strong education background to lead a good and healthy life.  A girl can study from primary level till the up-most tier of education, because that is her rights, and, she can choose any subject or course that she wants to do without any discrimination. This right stated that it’s a compulsory for these girls to continue their studies up to post-primary level.  It is said that the education rights is the most difficult rights among, as education is essential in order for a girl to secure the other rights.  

Many traditional families, especially those in South Asia have this strong believe that as a female, one should only perform the responsibilities of being a daughter, wife and any other significant relationship. This is something, I totally disagree. Why is that so? I wouldn’t deny the fact that a woman has bigger responsibilities in life, she is the structure of a family, but that shouldn’t be given a reason for why a young girl shouldn’t attend school or further her  studies to a much higher level . I personally believe, when a woman is well educated, she isn’t going to be the naive girl that will be made a fool by the family and society, in fact she would be strong enough to stand up on her own feet and fight for herself. Looking into statistics, and past reports, most of the domestic violence victims are illiterate, this is because most of these victims have this thought that has been passed to them, in any circumstances, the husband is the greater power, as he is the sole breadwinner in the family, she should obey him and the worst part, even if she leaves her husband, it’s not guaranteed that she will be accepted in her parents’ home. With a good education, she would be able to break this cultural shell and live a life of her preference without being afraid of the future.

Education will be able to create awareness in a woman, specially the health awareness. When a woman is being educated, she would be given much important information, that is so relevant to her life, teaching her to take charge situations and how to react to it, and it can be applied later on, at some point.  Many illiterate women are suffering from HIV/AIDS, multiple pregnancies, vaginal diseases, and they never knew about it until they reach the death bed. Being educated, a woman would be precocious over these kinds of matters which will eventually decrease the chances of having illness, specially the chronic disease, and as well, uncontrolled pregnancies.  This as well, would be able to reduce child mortality and malnutrition.

Educating a girl is a significant step to diminish the poverty level. Poverty happens when people tend to violate the human rights, and giving an unbalanced lifestyle, that includes the basics: food & home, and the main source for these; salary or wage. The rights of education are often taken away from a girl due to her poverty, and this is something that is not acceptable. When a girl is not educated, she has to do a lot other jobs to survive, married or not and solely depends on the availability, mostly as house-maids or slave, most of these girls are later on, fooled into the fantasy of living a better life , will be forced to be a sex worker.  An educated girl would be able to get a better job that offers better pay and therefore, having an ability to have a secured and better life than living in poverty.

Education is a right, which definitely speaks out loud, why a girl should be educated.  It’s no harm for a girl to get education, and gain knowledge. Whatever that she is going to learn in the process of gaining knowledge, each of it will be a applied in every step of her life, from breaking the shell of the ancient cultural belief, to being aware of her health, and as well, to come out of poverty. Education will give girls a platform to walk on , to build themselves, and life to live on, forever.

Rest In Peace , Beautiful .

Various reason, it could be , for this beauty to take her life, but one thing is for sure - a young life was taken away, cruel thing. Bollywood - now seems to be more EVIL now, as a part of Bollywood fraternity, her death will be associated with the industry. Committing suicide isn't the solution, it brings enormous pain to the loved ones. I might not be a die hard fan of hers, but I adore her for her flawless beauty and incredible talent. She never really got a chance to showcase her talent, and she's no more now. 

Reading the tweets by celebrities, news representative,make me realize that a 3 film fame, actually tattooed her name permanently, in the industry, she is not an unknown - she's a known actress & thousands of her fans, the Bollywood family is mourning over her death. Why can't all of them , show her the same love, when she was alive? Too busy in own fame, own life, that some people in need, are often ignored, abandoned. As they, silently, scream for help, we often pretend not to hear. Is it a difficult process, to sit , and have a few minutes, of heart to heart talk, sharing problems, and trying to make someone feel better? 

25 years of life, gone vain, just in a second. No one to be blame, not even the victim.

Rest In Peace .
Nafisa (Jiah) Khan 
20 Feb 1988 - 3rd June 2013 

 

Happiness. What an idea !

We really need to make people happy, and that will only happen if we're happy. Came across an article , seems pretty interesting, so I thought, it should be here.

Read it, very useful.


1. Appreciate what you have. – If we counted our blessings instead of our money, we would all be a lot richer. Happiness is there if you want it to be. You just have to see that it’s wrapped in beauty and hidden delicately between the seconds of your life. If you never stop for a minute to notice, you might miss it.

2.Focus on things that truly matter. – The simple fact that you are even here, alive, on this planet is a divine miracle, and you should not spend the time you have being busy, being miserable. Every moment you get is a gift, so stop focusing on unhappy things, and spend your moments on things that truly matter to your heart.

3. Define your own meaning of life, and pursue it. – What is the meaning of life? Whatever you want it to be. Don’t fear failure; fear alifetime of mediocrity due to lack of effort and commitment. There are so many people out there who will tell you that you CAN’T. What you need to do is turn around and say, “Watch me!”

4. Embrace life’s challenges. – You may think that taking a detour in life is a waste of time and energy, but you can also see the detour as a means of learning more about who you are and where you are heading in your life. Being off the beaten path may be disorienting and confusing at times, yet it challenges your creative spirit to discover new ways to build a stronger YOU. In the end, it’s usually the tough situations that feel like your tomb that actually become your cocoon. Hang in there. You’re coming out of this stronger and wiser.

5.Find the balance that allows you to be who you truly are. – Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel. One of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make is when to stay put and try harder or when to just take your memories and move on. Sometimes you have to step outside of the person you’ve been, and remember the person you were meant to be, the person you are capable of being, and the person you truly are.

6.Love your body enough to take care of it. – You’re beautiful; but keep in mind that not everyone is going to see that. Never be ashamed of yourself because you are born into one skin. You can scar it, stretch it, burn it, mark it, tan it, and peel it. But you are always in it, so you might as well take care of it and learn to love it.

7.Limit your time with negative people. – You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable. So protect your spirit and potential from contamination by limiting your time with negative people.

8.Treat others the way you want to be treated. – Be conscious of your attitude and your actions. You may be on top of the world right now – feeling untouchable. You may have all the tools at your disposal to do and say whatever you want. But remember, life is a circle – what goes around, comes around eventually.

9.Set a good example. – If you want to empower others in your life, you need to start living the most empowered version of yourself first. You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. Believe in what you want so much that it has no choice but to become your reality. And don’t ever compare yourself to anyone else; stay focused on your own journey and leave footprints behind.

10. Accept what is, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead. – Never waste your time wondering about what might have been. Get busy thinking about what still might be, and trusting that however it plays out, it will leave you glad that what might have been, never came to be.


Happiness, indeed, a great idea. Laughter is a free medicine & positive thinking is powerful.








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A little note about life.

Life is like a clock. Its a moment. A time. That repeats. Over and over again. And just that, life has an advantage. It has the ability to make a 180 degree turn. Yes, from the saddest shoot to the happiest. And vice verse.

Life is like a path. A path that you choose but it doesn't promise you an easy journey or take you to where you intent to go. Work hard, fight hard, never give u. Choose a path, rough, you fall, you get up, you get hurt, you get cured, you move on , you expect the worst! BOOM! 180 degree turn . You're the happiest person in the world.

Life is like a pencil. Its the basic. It helps . It breaks. You sharp it. It becomes shorter. But sharper. Darker. Clearer. But eventually, in the end, there wouldn't be a pencil, and that the end. But what really matters? The benefit of the pencil.

Life is like a weather. We can never get satisfied of life. When its hot, we want it to be cold, and when its cold, we want it to be hot. Life teaches us, to appreciate the yin and yang. The bad and the good. The positivity and negativity of life. It teaches us, to balance between these. We have to make a connection, between the black and the white, to create a balanced principle in life.

In the end, life can be anything. We can compare it to anything. But always remember the basics of life ; anything can happen at any moment, choose your path and give the best : wherever it leads, it leads towards your happiness, if only you go through hard time : as long you live, always help others : , always have a balance between the good and the bad. You decide what you want, cry now but never regret in future.

For the past 2 days, I've been wandering around Kuala Lumpur, all around. I have no reason for this, but I am pretty sure I was in a bad state and just wanted to get away from all the thing that hurt me.

Heart-broken, devastated, lost, that was exactly what I felt, i didn't want to cry, because i have cried enough, the night before my 'adventure' . My initial plan was to watch movie, thats what I did exactly. Watched 'Kai Po Che', and felt a little better afterwards. It was a good movie, with lots of good value.

And the second day, I was about to attend an interview, then my heart told me, enough of doing what I hate to do and its time for me to do what I really want to do. So I am back to wandering around. My first stop was, the river, just below Masjid Jamek. It was too crowded, so I decided to go somewhere peaceful, somewhere close to this place. So I walked till Merdeka Square. Its a beautiful place and I wish, this could be my wedding spot. As I was sitting down, a lady approached me, a tourist, and she was asking me , about some place. And I told her, all she needs to know. But looking at her, there were so many questions , flowing in my mind.

Who is she? Where she's from? What shes doing here and whom is she with. Too many question, but I just love all this. It keeps me occupied, possibilities in impossibilities. Chances in all those difficult situations. And she is into my inspiration list. Why? I wanna travel the world, all alone, learning new cultures and being with the gorgeous people from all around the world. I , too, want to inspire someone, somewhere, any part of the world, just like her.

Imagine

Lets just imagine that we never exist. No problems. Yup exactly. No money problem. No need to wake up in the morning to work. No need of waiting for the train/bus or stuck in the jam. No need to sleep early at night. No need to worry about the projects. No need to struggle in college days. No sleepless nights, thanks to assignments. No need to fight with friends. No need to argue with parents over the course we gonna study. No boyfriend/girlfriend. No worries of what to accomplish in life. No need to sit for exMs in school. No need to waste 11years in school , just to qualify in a college. There wouldn't be tension, stress, cry, pain, laughter and all those emotion.


Ps : We exist. There all written above is part of our life. Like it or not, we got to live it. We have to experience every single of this. Its essential. Its true. And this determines who we are now & what we will be in future, and what should we do now, in the present.

I wanted you so badly, I WANTED, note this word. Know how it feels to be rejected? To be deceived? When you needed me, you came running after me, I accepted you!

And now? Now , you don't need me, so when I am running behind you, you're going too fast, keeping me a great distance away. I am a fool right? To still love , when you said you don't feel the same towards me?

Bored of me? Bored of having to keep up to my attitude? Or too much ego? To much ego to accept the fact that, indeed, man ego have been challenged, therefore, being in a relationship with me, is just a waste of time. Am I right?

Now , don't deny this. I am not in the state of mind , to take your denial. Because for me this is true. Lets not talk about who deserve whom, lets not talk about how much we loved each other, lets not even talk about our future. For present time sake, we can make it happen. If you want. But i know you wont :) .

Its been a while..

When you're hurt, you hardly could feel your sense, let alone writing in a blog. What i've gone thru? TERRIBLE.

My heartbreaks are the one I am afraid of, all the while. Thats the only thing that makes me able to stare at a building and tears dripping, like some mad girl. I might seem mad, but no one knows my pain.

All they need to do is to understand a little bit of me, of who i am and what i want. I do the same, didn't I ? Why? Why cant one of you just change a lil bit for me? Rather than keep rejecting me over and over again? I don't deserve good things? No. Thats what they gonna say. They gonna say that I deserve much better in life. OH REALLY?

How can they decide what I want? What I deserve? How can they? Why is it so hard to forgive me? Why? Why wrong i have done that everything, everyone is so harsh towards me?

Just for once. JUST FOR ONCE. Be nice to me. Be really nice to me. Feel up my emptiness and give me a reason to live. A reason to carry on my life. Just a feeling that I have someone who will never let me go. And that someone is YOU.

Because it has been a while, since I really laughed. It has been a while, since I meant it when I say" yes, i am okay'. It has been a while Since I really felt LIFE.